Preparing my 2012
As 2011 comes to a close I've been looking back on it and trying to find those memorable moments that stand out to me the most. There have been a few moments, some good and some bad, that I can immediately associate with the term '2011', and while I could easily get into all of that mess, my preference is to not look back and instead focus on what lies ahead of me. With that, I figured that to bring some reality and tangibility to my goals for 2012, I would write them down, make them public and leave them here for me to come back to when I am feeling like I need a refresher.
I've been thinking for a few months now about what I want my 2012 to be like. In past years I would think in terms of what I don't want, but something I've learned in 2011 is to look at what I do want and pursue that rather than attempt to evade what I don't want. My thought is, if I know clearly what I am pursuing I will have something clear to aim for as opposed to just trying to outrun what I don't want to be a part of. That began to make a lot of sense to me in the last half of 2011 and it is something I plan to continue in 2012.
In keeping with that principle, I am also of the mind that if I speak something enough I have to power to see it come to fruition. As I put my thoughts to work and turn them into words I have a chance to put my words to work and turn them into actions. And, the more action I take, the better the chances of my original thoughts becoming reality. So with that in mind, here are some of the things I will do, achieve, accomplish or complete in 2012 and, where feasible, when.
- January
- Drink no alcohol
- Eat no refined sugars
- Exercise six days a week
- Don't eat what I can't accurately measure the nutrition on
- Sign up for Krav Maga with my daughter Rebekah
- Get started with CrossFit
- Lose 10 pounds
- February
- Drink no alcohol
- Exercise six days a week
- Don't eat what I can't accurately measure the nutrition on
- Lose 10 pounds
- Finish Chalene Johnson's book PUSH
- March
- Start P90X2
- Start distance running
- Exercise six days a week
- Don't eat what I can't accurately measure the nutrition on
- Lose 10 pounds
- April
- Hike Mission Peak at least once
- Throw Sarah an awesome 16th birthday party
- Exercise six days a week
- Don't eat what I can't accurately measure the nutrition on
- Lose 10 pounds
- May
- Help the kids give their mom a memorable Mother's Day
- Hike Mount Diablo at least once
- Complete P90X2
- Start Insanity Asylum
- Exercise six days a week
- Don't eat what I can't accurately measure the nutrition on
- Lose 10 pounds
- June
- Enjoy a family filled Father's Day
- Complete Insanity Asylum
- Exercise six days a week
- Don't eat what I can't accurately measure the nutrition on
- Get under 200 pounds for the first time since high school
- July
- Earn my 32" waist
- Give Alaynah her own birthday party
- Give Rebekah her own awesome birthday party
- August
- Take the family to Yosemite
- Run a Yosemite trail
- Have all school shopping done
- September
- Give Adriannah a great birthday party
- Run Tough Mudder NorCal
- October
- Run Warrior Dash NorCal
- November
- Host Thanksgiving
- Have all my Christmas shopping done
- December
- Attend a New Years Party outside of my own city
- Finish the year under 210 pounds
- Some time in 2012
- Pray daily with my family
- Find a church and become a member
- Read at least two self improvement books
- Own a motorcycle
- Replace my car
- Complete a 5K
- Complete a 10K
- Run a sub-six minute mile
- Attend a software developer conference
- Give a talk at a meetup or conference
- Go to a concert
- Go to an NFL game
- Travel out of state
- Learn a new programming language
I know it seems like a lot of this is wrapped around health. I'm of the opinion that I need to continually work on my health - physically, emotionally and spiritually - so I can continually improve myself. If there is one thing that I gleaned from 2011 it's that I need to become a better human being. I need to learn to be more patient, more kind, more understanding. I need to improve me. 2012 will be my year for that.
I expect some amazing things this year. And I am determined to see these through completion. My prayer is that I can look back on these things a year from now and be able to say that I've done them all. I'm certain that's possible.
Be grateful in all things
I woke up this morning with a feeling of anxiety. This happens from time to time, but more recently it has happened more often. I'm not talking about clinical anxiety but more the anxiety that comes as a precursor to the culmination of a great journey coupled with major change in the usual surroundings of your life. Like when you're getting ready to start a new job or when you're entering into a new relationship.
But as I thought about all that could be causing me anxiety I began to realize that this feeling, this nervous energy that seems to overtake me, stems from the knowledge that where I am in life is simply not good enough. It's because I want more - I need more - out of life that I seek a higher level.
I'd be the first to tell you that if you are not happy where you are go find your happiness. Seek out with all your might that which you so greatly desire and aggressively pursue it until you've acquired what you seek. You only have one life to live and you're not getting any younger. So stop living your life wondering and wishing and start making the necessary moves to find that place in life you want to be. But today I've decided to change my attitude. Today I choose to be grateful.
As we enter into the last few days of Christmas and, realistically, the last few days of the year, I am reminded that there is so much for me to be thankful for in my life. I have a beautiful and amazing family. My children are all healthy, brilliant, creative, thriving children who have shown me this past year that they are tough as nails and soft as silk. I have a great relationship with them and they, with me. We live our lives together as harmoniously as a family can and we have shown over time that we are a tight knit family that is capable of withstanding the worst possible situations while still being able to celebrate the best ones.
I have a skillset that is heavily sought after and positions me to be able to take care of my children financially. It's good to be a tech head in Silicon Valley at this particular time in history. I love what I do and because I'm in a rather niche market, I am actually pretty valuable. This is a good thing.
I have a wonderful home for my children that is warm, inviting, filled with the sounds of playful screams, craftily composed piano tunes and strong voices that are right on pitch. The creativity flows through my house in every aspect but none stronger than music. I am reminded every day just how blessed I am to be surrounded by such musically inclined kids.
The basic necessities of life are always at our disposal. We literally want for nothing. No, we don't live a high roller lifestyle by any stretch of the imagination but very seldom do we have to tell ourselves "no". All in all, life is pretty good.
So as the week winds down, and Christmas lists get poured over and things get bought and the "want meter" is showing elevated readings, I want to take a minute to slow down, consider what I really want the most and enjoy the last few days of this year with an attitude of gratitude. Yes, there is going to be an extraordinary amount of change coming very, very soon. I am preparing myself for the coming year because it will open with change right out of the gates. But for now, or at least the next couple of weeks, I will be thankful. I will choose to be happy with what I have and I will choose to enjoy my life exactly as it is.
Happy Thanksgiving 2011
Another thanksgiving is upon us. It seems in recent years that we are cycling through holidays at breakneck speed, never being able enjoy any one particular holiday because the next holiday is already up in stores or being advertised on the Internet. This saddens me, especially at thanksgiving time, since we often times neglect the spirit of giving thanks for the rush of acquiring more crap on the morning after.
Being thankful is something I've tried to teach my kids for a while now. It's also something I've tried to live my life by as well, although I am nowhere near perfect at it so inevitably I overlook something I should be thankful for, usually in favor of being cranky about something else. This past 12 months it has been way easier to count my curses than it has been to count my blessings. But I've had a quiet last few weeks, time that I've been able to spend thinking about my life and the many blessings that surround me daily.
While the past year has been challenging, the blessings in my life have shown themselves to me clearly. Among these blessings are the tangibles and the intangibles, the valuable and the invaluable. Although I'm sure I'm forgetting many, it would be silly of me not to at least try to address the more prominent blessings in my life.
- My kids - My children have been the greatest blessing to me and continue to be. Not a day goes by that I am not totally and completely amazed by them in some way. Whether it be their creative outward expressions or their tender, sincere, loving hearts toward me and their siblings, I'm reminded everyday of just how powerful a blessing my children are.
- My family - My family has shown me this past year just what love is and to just what lengths they will go in order to care for me and my kids. When I say "my family" I am most definitely talking about my blood family (my brother, my sister, my cousins, my nieces and my nephews). But I am also talking about my mother-in-law, my father-in-law, my sisters-in-law and my brothers-in-law. My entire family seemed to rally around my immediate family this year and even through the hardest of times have stayed by my side.
- My friends - I'd like to think that everyone has friends. And although I have a crapload of friends on Facebook and Twitter, I can count the number of close friends I have on one hand. But this year my closest friends really showed themselves. They came out of the woodwork to encourage me, make me laugh and generally just have my back. I don't know where I'd be on this thanksgiving if not for my friends reaching out to me, talking to me and listening to me. You know who you are. I just hope you know how thankful I am for you.
- My possessions - I know that stuff is just stuff, but I count among my stuff the basic necessities of life: a house, a car, electricity, running water, etc. Yes, I also include toys and gadgets in my "stuff" (I mean who doesn't love their phone) but being able to keep my kids warm, fed, clothed and sheltered is a tremendous blessing to me.
- My skills - I love being a nerd. I've said it before and I'll continue to say it. What started out at a hobby for me has blossomed into a career. A well paying, lucrative career. I'm thankful that I've been blessed with an inquisitive mind and a passion for learning, and that I can leverage that into a skill set that continues to provide for my children.
- My health - I've worked hard to get myself healthy. I've worked hard to stay healthy. I'm blessed to say that I don't need medication everyday just to live and that I can experience life with my children with energy, fervor and passion, never missing a thing with them because "daddy doesn't feel like it today kids".
- My struggles - Anyone that knows me knows that I like to push myself to achieve things that I might not be able to achieve under normal circumstances. And most folks that know me know that I'm not one to get smacked on the chin without swinging back. This year has shown this more clearly than any other. The struggles came in droves this year, each one presenting a new challenge, a new problem that needed a new and different way to approach it. To say that this past year was trying would be minimizing what actually took place. Still, through each of the struggles came an equally rewarding victory and a promise of a brighter future. And for that I am immeasurably blessed.
- My failures - If there was one thing I can say I am more blessed by this year than last year it would have to be my realization of my own imperfection and my coming to grips with many of my behaviors, attitudes and actions that have led to failure in many areas of my life. It's been said that if you want to continue to get the same results of your actions simply keep doing the same thing. I realized this year that I did not want to keep getting the same results in life I've always gotten and that in order to change course I had to take a deep look within myself to identify those areas of myself that may have been preventing my own success. That has been painful to say the least, but it has also been an indescribable blessing in that for the first time in my life I've come face to face with many of my shortcomings and have been able to begin rectifying them. Change is good, even if it is uncomfortable.
There is so much more that I should be thankful for. But as I sit behind the keys staring at the emptiness of what will soon become the last few lines of this post, I'm reminded that I have a house full of kids that need their daddy's attention and affection. And that is a blessing I can no longer pass up.
Happy thanksgiving. May this holiday season be a blessing to you and may it open you up to be a blessing to others.
Yet more change is afoot
A little over a year ago I posted about an upcoming career change that I was embarking on. I'm not at all the kind of person that likes to bounce around from job to job nor am I a huge risk taker when it comes to matters of finance, career growth and personal change. However, sometimes life happens, and sometimes things happen beyond your control that put you into a position of having to pull back the reins and get things in order once again, even if you have to take a risk to do it. To that end, I am heading down a path that I've not even so much as entertained the idea of let alone had the guts to pursue. I am changing jobs again.
This change is much needed for various reasons which I don't need to go into here. But let me just say that while I look back on the last year of my work with mixed emotions, when I look forward I look on with excitement, butterflies and a determination to make some magic happen. I am leaving the comfort of something stable for the vast wonderland of something that is far from proven. I am taking a risk. A big risk. But one I absolutely need to take at this point in my life.
Starting next week I will be the lead architect and head engineer of a niche marketing company in Concord. I will be working a short term contact with long term potential and will be able to make an immediate, very visible impact of the business operations of the company. I will be a part owner and I will be responsible for making business, technology, architecture, implementation and deployment decisions the likes of which I've yet to do in my career. I'm more than a little nervous about that. But I am also more than a little excited about that.
There is just something about looking out over the great expanse of the unknown and seeing for yourself what that landscape looks like. Then stepping off the ledge of safety into that unknown, preparing to face all sorts of unexpected happenings and trusting in yourself to not only get through it but kick ass along the way to a major victory in your life. Yeah, I feel like a boxer throwing punches in the locker room just before a title fight. This is going to be freaking awesome and I am looking forward to it.
I do have to say however that there are some people I will miss from my current employer. While I've only been here a year I have had a chance to develop some strong professional and personal relationships with some amazing people that do some amazing things day in and day out. I've had to work with these folks daily, supporting them, being challenged by them and working with them collaboratively to achieve common goals and mutual awesomeness:
- Ravi - Dude, I don't know how you manage to do what you do every day without blowing a gasket. You only have two hands yet you work like an army of employees daily, getting things done by yourself that I've seen entire teams not get done at all.
- Jay - I've had more fun working with you, talking with you, debating with you and collaborating with you than anyone else in the office. You are a great developer and I see big things for your future. Also? Competing in triathlons? Bad. Ass.
- Fai - You are a gifted and talented front end designer and developer. Don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise. You have an eye for style, color, relationships of objects... all of it. You were an asset to our company from the day you came on board.
- Kim - What can I say dude, you are just bad ass from top to bottom. You get things done, you handle your business, you see a need before the client does and have an amazing work ethic. Any company would be blessed to have you on their team. It has been a tremendous pleasure working with you. And don't cover up those tattoos. If there isn't a handbook saying you have to there isn't a rule saying you have to.
- Adrian - Bro, you made my job so much more bearable, so much more sane. I'm glad we had a chance to work together, and I am glad you always brought a positive spin to the table every single day. Even if things were awful in my office, you coming over made things better. I hope you realize what an asset you are. Thanks for making my job as wonderful as you did bro.
And there you have it... news of yet another change in my life. So many changes in such a short period of time... and they aren't done yet. Just you wait and see.
The Charge of the Light Brigade
When the movie "The Blind Side" came out my wife and I went to see it. While I loved the story line of the movie, and the character portrayals in it, there was a subplot to it that really stood out to me.
In the movie, Michael Oher, the character on whom the story is based, was tasked with reading and dissecting an Alfred, Lord Tennyson poem called "The Charge of the Light Brigade", a poem written about a band of soldiers in the 1850's that literally rode into the face of death at the command of their superior even though he had made a mistake. They knew they were going to die, they knew it was going to be painful, they knew it was a lost cause. Yet they rode, because that is what soldiers do. Their role as soldiers gave them no latitude to question the motives or commands of their superior. They had pledged to follow him and his orders, and do that they did.
There is a story about life in this. There is also a story about parenting, marriage, education, work and every other aspect of your life that can sometimes catch you up in stress, anger, frustration or doubt. At the end of the day, whatever your role is - be it husband, father, president, stock clerk or son - you have a responsibility to fill that role with every ounce of your being. That is what those soldiers did. And that is what I choose to do daily.
I am currently embroiled in one of the greatest challenges in my personal life that I have ever experienced. To that end, I am resolved to do what's right wholeheartedly throughout the entire ordeal. I absolutely need to. My wife needs me to. My kids need me to. My friends need me to. I need me to. Challenges, battles, sorrow and loss come. It happens. The true test of a man's character, as I see it, is not his ability to handle those times but the manner in which he handles himself during those times. When faced with certain loss, certain death, certain pain, will you press on anyway?
The Charge Of The Light Brigade
by Alfred, Lord Tennyson
Written 1854Half a league half a league,
Half a league onward,
All in the valley of Death
Rode the six hundred:
'Forward, the Light Brigade!
Charge for the guns' he said:
Into the valley of Death
Rode the six hundred.'Forward, the Light Brigade!'
Was there a man dismay'd ?
Not tho' the soldier knew
Some one had blunder'd:
Theirs not to make reply,
Theirs not to reason why,
Theirs but to do & die,
Into the valley of Death
Rode the six hundred.Cannon to right of them,
Cannon to left of them,
Cannon in front of them
Volley'd & thunder'd;
Storm'd at with shot and shell,
Boldly they rode and well,
Into the jaws of Death,
Into the mouth of Hell
Rode the six hundred.Flash'd all their sabres bare,
Flash'd as they turn'd in air
Sabring the gunners there,
Charging an army while
All the world wonder'd:
Plunged in the battery-smoke
Right thro' the line they broke;
Cossack & Russian
Reel'd from the sabre-stroke,
Shatter'd & sunder'd.
Then they rode back, but not
Not the six hundred.Cannon to right of them,
Cannon to left of them,
Cannon behind them
Volley'd and thunder'd;
Storm'd at with shot and shell,
While horse & hero fell,
They that had fought so well
Came thro' the jaws of Death,
Back from the mouth of Hell,
All that was left of them,
Left of six hundred.When can their glory fade?
O the wild charge they made!
All the world wonder'd.
Honour the charge they made!
Honour the Light Brigade,
Noble six hundred!
Borrowed from http://www.nationalcenter.org/ChargeoftheLightBrigade.html
Welcome 2011 and to you, 2010, a not so fond farewell
As I sit down, lazing about toward the end of this, the first day of 2011, I find myself recollecting the happenings of 2010 and thinking of what this fresh new year might bring. I wish I could say, as I recollect, that 2010 was a banner year for my family and I, but the truth is 2010 was riddled with struggle, hardship, challenges and battles. It was really a hard year. And while I know that many people share this sentiment, I am not really one to dwell too long on the negative.
So with that, I'd like to remember a few things that happened this past year that were utterly positive and totally worthy of being remembered fondly:
- Sandi got a lot better
After a very long battle with illness and other debilitating health issues, Sandi's health started to improve dramatically this year. She'll admit that she's still not 100% better. But she would also concede that she is doing way better now than she was just a year ago. Thank God for that. - I lost a crapload of weight
In March of 2010 I made a decision to stop being unhealthy and lose some weight. I had no idea what I was in store for, but I knew I couldn't continue to live my life how I had been. For those of you that were following along, you know that between March and July I lost 60 pounds on the Insanity program. My life was completely transformed because of this. But more important than the weight loss was the lifestyle transformation that took place in me, the most awesome thing being that as of the last day of 2010 I had not gained back a single pound I had lost. Hells yes. - My family got bitten by the theater bug
Sandi, Sarah, Rebekah and Adriannah all auditioned for, and were cast in, Cinderella, a Stage 1 Theatre production. This was the first of what would become a string of performances they would be involved in until the end of the year. It was challenging at times, but it was very liberating for Sandi and the girls so though the nights were long the expenses high and the toll great, over the long haul, it was a win. - Sarah started high school, AJ started kindergarten
As of this year I no longer have babies. This makes me smile. Sarah started high school this year, which is huge for us because it totally exposes how freaking old I really am. Wait, what? Did I really say that? What I meant to say is that it is huge because Sarah is moving into a new phase of her life. And so is AJ, who is now school aged. That means more work for Sandi and I, more work for the older girls and fewer and fewer years until all of the kids are off to college. - I got a new job
In September I had the fortune of running across a Craigslist add that caught my eye. It was a Thursday morning and, without really thinking too much about it, I sent my resume to the email address in the ad at about 11:00 AM. Less than an hour later I was on a phone interview with this company. The next day I was interviewing in person with the VP. After the interview I was tasked with working as a contractor for them on a trial basis so that we could mutually evaluate each other. I fell in love with the work and, as best I can tell, they liked what I did. After my trial was up I was offered a job with them that was too good to refuse and, at the end of October I made one of the bigger life changes I've made in a long time.
There were quite a few other things that happened this year that were blessings to me and my family. Many of those things can be gleaned from Sandi's Facebook, where she has documented pretty well the happenings of our family for the past year or so. Or, if you know me personally, you've probably already been bombarded with all of the happenings in my life, both the good and the bad.
Regardless of the state of 2010, it is now entirely behind us and in the past. I'm really not into focusing on the past too much, so as of today, my eyes are set on 2011. I know that with any start to a year, change is bound to occur. However, I know that given the nature of the past few years, 2011 will necessarily have to carry with it severe, positive change if I am to expect to make it out alive or sane. I know things cannot continue the way they are, for the most part, if there is to be any thriving in the Gonzalez house.
So as I begin my journey into this new year, I'm preparing myself for significant change, adventure and excitement. And you know what? I'm way more thrilled about that than I have ever been before.
Happy new year. May your 2011 be the best year of your life and may you gracefully and peacefully release 2010 from your clutches, whether it was good or bad for you.
Change is afoot
Today is a sad yet exciting day for me. It's a day that is marked with emotion, trepidation, joy, reminiscence and a pinch of anxiety. Today is my last day in my current job as web developer for Bay Alarm Company.
I've been with Bay Alarm for a little over four years now, having left my previous role at New United Motor Manufacturing, Inc (NUMMI) after a nine year career there. I came on board at Bay Alarm primarily to help migrate the previous incarnation of the online account management system to a newer, LAMP based solution. From there I began to take on deeper responsibilities, most currently in the realm of SOAP interaction against payment gateways and middleware development bridging disparate data sources for resource tracking.
I've loved every minute of the work I have done here. I've loved working with my coworkers, two of whom have mentored me far beyond any expectation I could have ever had for mentors and one with whom I share a joint peer-to-peer type relationship. I've had the pleasure of working on several large scale projects, both software and hardware driven. I've had the opportunity to challenge myself with learning new technologies, methodologies and practices. And I have been blessed with having had the support of a great team, great managers and a great company helping me push forward in my development efforts.
Because of this, it has been exceptionally difficult wrapping my head around the notion that I will no longer be a part of this team. I will miss my team more than I can put into words. But at the same time, I am looking forward to new challenges, new experiences and new growth opportunities in my new endeavor. I am excited to be stepping out into something new. And though it is hard for me to say goodbye to my family at Bay Alarm, it is with great anticipation that I say hello to my new company.
In addition to my team, I would be remiss not to mention my family and the wonderful support they have shown me in the last few weeks as I struggled with this decision. My wife, Sandi, has been extremely supportive even though I am sure she is a little worried about this change. My kids have been excited for me, my bother and sister both have supported my decision and my in-laws have shown their support and congratulations for me in this move. All in all, I can say that this will be a good thing.
Still, I am sad. Sad that I am leaving such a great team. Sad that I will no longer have the working relationship that I have with our Marketing department, our Customer Care department, our Finance department... all of the groups that I have the pleasure of working for, and with, while I've been here. And while there have been a number of people that I have worked with that I will never forget, there are few that I absolutely have to give a special shout out to because without them there is a good chance I would have never been able to do my job:
- Deanne - The most awesome DBA ever in the world, the fastest vi user ever in the world, the most security conscious person in the world... how did I ever develop software without you? You have been an inspiration, teacher, mentor and friend to me from day one. I am going to miss working closely with you, talking structure, architecture, data, interface and even knitting with you. I learned things from you that I never even knew I needed to know. Thank you for everything you have ever done for me.
- Royce - You still amaze me everyday, both from your technical expertise and who you are as a man and father. You have blessed me in so many ways, from your constant barrage of lunches to our drives to Fremont when my car was broken to a few late nights of getting things in order on our server. I have learned so much from you over the past few years, most of which I will carry with me for the rest of my technical life.
- Jason - Bro, you are an amazing developer. You've challenged me, you taught me, you've supported me. We've worked on some really cool stuff together and have done some amazing things. I've had the greatest time becoming your friend and I am proud to consider you my peer in all things technical.
So as my day draws to an end, and I begin to place my career at Bay Alarm into boxes, I'm taking a step back to remember all the awesome times I've had here and all the amazing people I've met here. You will all be missed.
Candidates for California Superintendent of Public Instruction
I know this is very last minute but I wanted to post some of the replies I received today from the candidates that are running for Superintended of Public Instruction. Voting for the California Primary Election closes at 8:00 PM today, so if you haven't voted and you have a heart for home schooling, here are the candidates and their responses to the question: "What is your view on home schooling?"
- Gloria Romero
I couldn't contact her in my email list because her email address is not published anywhere. I find this a little odd for a state senator but, having exhausted my efforts in trying to located a contact email address, I chose to give up lest I spent my entire day trying to find her email address. - Lydia Gutierrez
"Thank you for doing the ground work in wanting to support the best person who will fight for your child's well being.
I fully support homeschooling. Before traditional education, children were taught at home or self-taught, like our most favored President, Abraham Lincoln. I am concern what has been happening around the world of children being forced to go to public school or even families having to flee their country because of fear of being arrested because they homeschooled.
We must fight for parental rights and this is why I supported the 'Right to Work' initiative that would not allow unions to use dues for political use without the permission of the member. My union, California Teacher’s Association (CTA) supported the ‘No’ vote on Proposition 4. This was wrong; every parent has a right to know what is happening to his or her child at school.
When it comes to educating a child, the best scenario is parents, teachers, and the community are playing an active role in the child’s academic success." - Alexia L. Deligianni
"I support a parent's right to homeschool their child." - Leonard J. Martin
Please refer to a previous post of mine detailing Mr. Martin's response to this question. - Grant McMicken
No response as of this writing. - Karen Blake
"I fully support home schooling. I would work to keep the home schooling a viable option for all parents." - Daniel M. Nusbaum
"Dear Ms. H., I support and encourage families who privately homeschool their children. As long as the parent(s) have sufficient education, they should be left alone by government to teach their own children. If anything, government could and should do more to support homeschooling parents in their efforts, by providing teaching materials and other educational support requested by parents in order to be the best homeschoolers they can be! If elected I will educate myself to learn as much as I can about the homeschooling movement and the laws pertaining to it in California." [NOTE: This is from his website. I could not find an email address for Mr. Nusbaum] - Tom Torlakson
"Thank you for contacting me. I appreciate having an opportunity to respond to questions from voters. I'm glad you took the time to ask on Election Day!Homeschooling is an option about which many parents feel strongly and want to pursue. So, I support parents' rights to choose this option for their children. "
- Faarax Dahir Sheikh-Noor
No response as of this writing. - Henry Williams Jr.
"We homeschooled our children for 12 years in California (San Francisco Bay Area). I will see to it that parents have the full freedom to home educate their children.
Sending you my Candidate Statement attachment with important media links.
Just loaded this MUST WATCH YouTube video
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uTQug1jSlpI&feature=channelSee: Queering the Schools
http://www.city-journal.org/html/13_2_queering_the_schools.htmlIn addition, I am highly recommending that Californians vote for Ken Miller as our next governor. Here are 2 of his media links.
https://download.yousendit.com/OHo2SkhkNmNiR0pFQlE9PQ
https://download.yousendit.com/OHo2SkhaTlE5NVh2Wmc9PQ
Please feel free to forward this information to your circles of influence to help them decide on what is best for their families."
- Diane A. Lenning
"Hi Robert, I support “free choice” in education which includes home schooling. My nephew was home schooled and got a quality education. It is important for parents and students to have choices in education." - Larry Aceves
"Larry believes that homeschooling is a parent's right and if a parent chooses to home-school their child, he would support that decision.I hope that this helps to answer your question. If not, please let us know."
If I get more responses I will post them as they come. Again, sorry for the late posting.
It’s been 15 years already?
Today marks 15 years of marriage for my wife, Sandi, and I. Looking back on it, sometimes it feels longer than that. Other times, it feels shorter.
Regardless of how long it may or may not feel, the fact is Sandi and I have set ourselves apart in the world of marriage. Most marriages end after just a few years. Some make it as long as we have just to call it quits. Still, others never call it off. Whatever the circumstance, what Sandi and I have, by the grace of God, is quite an accomplishment.
Anyone that has known either her or I knows that we have had our share of trials, tribulations, struggles and challenges. But on the same plane as those we have also had an extraordinary number of successes, achievements, accomplishments and victories. You have to have those in order to make it in marriage for any length of time.
So I enter today thinking about 15 years of marriage, and almost 19 years of being together, I like to think of those times when we have had our act together, when we've been able to hold each other's hand overlooking the carnage of the battlefield upon which a great victory we've just had. I like thinking of those moments when all we could really see was the joy in each other's face as we realized that we did, indeed, make the right decision saying "I do".
I love you Sandi, more today than yesterday but not nearly as much as I'm going to love you tomorrow. We've grown together, taught each other, lifted each other and supported each other. We've done a lot of everything in our 15 short years of marriage and as I look to the future, I can smile knowing that we have so many more years ahead of us to spend loving each other, enjoying each other and becoming even better best friends.
Why you should not vote for Leo J. Martin for California Education Superintendent
My wife Sandi just ran across a blog post written by a homeschooling parent who made contact with Leo J. Martin, a candidate for Superintendent of Instruction for the State of California in this year's upcoming California elections.
In the blog post Mr. Martin is quoted as saying in reply to his position on homeschooling:
Home schooling’s appropriate for children who have special difficulties that make it impossible for them to participate in traditional schooling. But under California law, a parent has the right to home school provided the parent is qualified to offer instruction. Personally, I believe nearly all kids would benefit more from being in traditional schools. Many parents home school for religious reasons, because they still hold outdated views on race or ethnicity, or for what they consider to be moral reasons. Since we have provisions for students to attend a school outside of their local community when there are legitimate reasons to do so, home schooling as an alternative to “unsafe” campuses is hardly a legitimate alternative. For the most part – overwhelmingly – the public schools of California are not only safe but are providing a high quality education. Yucca Valley should be no exception. If it is, as Superintendent I would like to hear the
complaints.There has also been a tremendous amount of fraud connected with home schooling. Corporate organizations have sprung up to drain precious taxpayer dollars from the state budget to “supervise” home schooling. That has been to the detriment of those children, who by necessity, must be home schooled.
My advice? Send the kids to a traditional public school.
Needless to say there are many points in his response that I take issue with as a homeschooling parent, such as:
- Home schooling’s appropriate for children who have special difficulties that make it impossible for them to participate in traditional schooling.
According to who? Appropriateness of homeschooling, location of education or educational curriculum should really only be defined by the parent of the child being educated or the adult who is seeking education. Just like many adults find that educating themselves at home is appropriate, so do many parents find educating their children at home appropriate. To say that homeschooling is "appropriate for children who have special difficulties that make it impossible for them to participate in traditional schooling" is completely ignorant and alienates a huge segment of the population of the state. Elected officials should know better than to call their constituents stupid. Candidates need to know this. Any person who would reveal such extraordinary ignorance in dealing with parents and their decisions on educating their children has no business being in a leadership position over the educational structure and development of an entire state. - Many parents home school for religious reasons, because they still hold outdated views on race or ethnicity, or for what they consider to be moral reasons.
I actually had to read this sentence a few times to see for my own eyes that Mr. Martin did indeed say these words. Apparently he is completely out of touch with the reality that our kids face in public schools today, like issues of crime, drugs, rampant promiscuity, inability for staff and administrators to effectively discipline children, lack of values placed on education within the public school system and an increasing student to teacher ratio throughout the state at all levels of education. None of these have anything to do with religion, views on race, views on ethnicity or morality. These are all issues that our kids face in California public schools today, issues that all parents should be aware of and concerned with. These are just some of the reason parents choose to homeschool, and none of them are religious in nature nor indicative of outdated views on race or ethnicity. - Since we have provisions for students to attend a school outside of their local community when there are legitimate reasons to do so, home schooling as an alternative to “unsafe” campuses is hardly a legitimate alternative.
Who gets to decide what is a legitimate reason for a student to attend a school outside their local community? Someone who believes homeschooling instead of sending your student to an unsafe campus is hardly a legitimate alternative? If this is the attitude of the highest ranking educational leader in our state, I'd rather not educate my kids in this state. With this statement he is in effect saying that just because your local campus is unsafe doesn't mean that he agrees with your decision to homeschool. Thanks Mr. Superintendent sir. Is there a way you could be less concerned about my child or my desire for him/her to be safe at school? - My advice? Send the kids to a traditional public school.
And my advice to you? Stay out of office. Your incredible disregard for parents and their children would be comical if not so incredibly alarming. Parents in our state need an advocate against our government. What we don't need is an advocate for the government against our parents and children.
Mr. Martin's response to an another email inviting him to look closer at homeschooling and to see for himself why so many parents choose this route for their children's education was met with an equally alarming and ignorant response:
I did not expect any home schooler to be satisfied with my response. Nor will I change it to appeal to the thousands of home schoolers who are voters. If this election were in the 1950s I would have received a question from someone representing tens of thousands of parents who opposed the racial integration of our public schools. They would have been looking for a candidate who agreed with them. My response would have turned them off and they would have urged me to read all the arguments in favor of segregation. I know those arguments, as I know the arguments for home schooling. Now, I’m not equating home schoolers with segregationists, but the situation is the same. As I would not edit my response to the segregationists to win their votes, I will not shape my response to home schoolers to seek their votes
either.I explained before that there are legitimate reasons for home schooling. If you meet those conditions, I fully support home schooling. But that is not why most home schoolers engage in it. And while they have a legal right to do so, I do not support home schooling in those situations.
Best Regards,
Leonard J. Martin
I am not going to go into my take on this response of his. All I will ask is that if you are a homeschooling parent in California, please spread the word that this man is bad for our state's educational system. All homeschooling parents and children will suffer if this man is elected. Let's do our part as a free state to see to it that he never makes it into office.
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