Being a man starts with being a man of your word
Posted on August 5th, 2008 in For the men, Personal Messages | No Comments »
As I have described in recent posts I am on a bit of a quest to find out who I am as a man. I discovered recently that I have abandoned my masculinity in favor of peace and harmony over the last few years and that has led to much angst and issue in my home and family.
Today I discovered something else about me that I hope to improve upon as I develop my masculinity: I all too easily will put a promise that I make aside for my own benefit. That is cowardly and shows no sign of fortitude at all.
Case in point: last night I told my wife I was going to go to Target at lunch and pick up the movie Chicago so we could watch it tonight. You know what I did at lunch? I went to lunch.
I know it doesn’t seem like much but to my wife it was huge. And I suppose it should have been. I said I was going to do something and I didn’t do it. I took my manhood and staked it on a promise that I blew off. All that does for me as a man is show that my words means nothing. Any of you men out there ever done something like this?
I am at a point right now where doing what I say I am going to do is vital. I have to be able to build that trust back up that was lost over all these years of complacent maleness. Not coming through is not going to do that. In fact, it will do the exact opposite. There are few things as important as a man as being accountable. When you stake your reputation on a word you have got to come through on that word. Period.
I hope there is a lesson to learn here. I am still learning and I full on expect to learn the hard way a few more times before I get it right. But it is important to take things like this seriously. Your identity as a man, and mine too, depend on that.